5 Things Every Men’s Circle Needs

to Help Men Go From “Manning Up” to “Opening Up”

In the Western world, men are three to four times more likely to commit suicide than women. This is likely because Western culture has created a weird narrative about masculinity: the only feelings men are socially accepted to express are anger and confidence. And, since traditional rites of passage and initiations have all but vanished, boys aren’t growing up to embody their masculinity in healthy ways.

Enter men’s circles – safe spaces where men can connect, embrace vulnerability without fear of judgment, and witness healthy expressions of masculinity.

Types of Men’s Circles
Men’s circles come in various forms, each catering to different needs and interests. Some circles focus on specific topics such as cancer, career, divorce, communication, or addictions. Others offer immersive retreat experiences, where men can engage in initiations and rites of passage to mark significant milestones in their journey. Spiritual warrior circles delve deep into aspects of the the Divine Masculine, incorporating practices such as chanting, breath work, and meditation to cultivate inner strength and resilience. Tantric or sex magic men’s circles explore the transformative power of sublimation, harnessing sexual energy for personal growth and empowerment.

Regardless of the type, the most powerful men’s circles include the following aspects:

1. Closed Containers are essential to fostering a safe space for transformation. Whether held in nature to experience initiations and rites of passage, or in a private residence to create a container to share privately, it is essential that these circles remain free from women and outside ears.
   
2. Initiation has been lost in modern culture. Traditionally, initiation marks significant rites of passage that signal a transition into manhood. By bringing back these timeless traditions, men’s circles can provide a sense of purpose and belonging that is sorely needed in today’s world.
   
3. Listening is paramount in creating a supportive environment where men feel heard and understood. In men’s circles, participants practice active listening, refraining from cross-talk or interrupting while another man shares his story. This simple act of presence fosters trust and empathy, laying the groundwork for genuine connection and healing.
   
4. Respect is a commitment to non-judgment and confidentiality. This means refraining from shaming or gossiping about other men’s vulnerabilities and honoring the sacredness of each individual’s journey.
   
5. Eldership involves the guidance and wisdom imparted by more experienced men, which is even more essential in a world where many sons were raised by single mothers. Usually an “elder” is an actual elder and has experienced more stages of life and what it means to be a man, but many circles facilitated by young men can offer the same support if the facilitator has delved into his own masculinity and shadow work.
   

These elements are essential to create environments that empower men to embrace vulnerability, reclaim their masculine essence, and forge authentic connections that transcend societal expectations.