An article by our partners Anima Mundi Herbals

Get ready to feel good.

Oxytocin (a.k.a. the “love hormone”) and dopamine (a.k.a. the “feel good” hormone) are waiting in the wings, ready to gush out at climax. Or, at least that’s what scientists say happens when you orgasm. Oxytocin has the added benefit of making you want to cuddle, spoon, and intimately bond with your partner post-O, while dopamine sends messages to the reward center of your brain, increasing chances you’ll repeat those behaviors.

But, there’s more ways than one to reach that pleasurable peak. This week, we’re delving into the spiritual side of your enthusiastic yes. You may find some surprising tidbits about orgasmic practices you didn’t know you were yearning to experience.

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Spiritual orgasms can happen spontaneously.

Did you know the clitoris has more than 8,000 nerve endings? While she’s not our full focus today, it’s noteworthy that female sexual stimulation isn’t notoriously complex without good reason. The divine feminine flower is a blueprint for many other spiritual centers, both energetic and literal (think: root chakra). Below, we’ll delve into four spiritual orgasms you can provoke, plus some you may just need to know if you’re lucky enough to experience one with little to no effort. Prepare to get some … spiritual release, that is 😉

1. Energy Orgasm

• What is an energy orgasm?

Not too far from how it sounds, this orgasm happens through intentional practice by harnessing sexual energy (a.k.a. kundalini) to unlock free flowing waves of energetic satisfaction. Experts say you can reach climax through energy orgasms alone or with company, and that with practice comes on-demand pleasure. This isn’t a “quickie”, though. Be prepared to get prepared, both using internal and external factors to your advantage.

• How to have one:

Step One: Surrender

Let your mind suspend all judgment, and allow yourself to believe this is possible. While this may sound simple, you might require a bit of help from meditation, deep breathing, or other spiritual “release” practices. There are countless ways to let go. This lifelong practice will serve you in all areas of your spiritual growth; start by finding what gives your brain its deepest rest.

Step Two: Stimulate the Senses

Setting the mood for an energy orgasm may differ from your typical ambiance-enhancing practices, or it may look a lot like what you normally like to do to relax and prepare for orgasmic possibilities. That will depend a lot on how intentional your other sensual and somatic rituals already are. Lighting smell-goods or candles, touching pleasant objects (feathers, soft blankets, etc.), and queueing up a transportive playlist that allows the monkey mind to go take a seat somewhere are just some ways you can ease into openness.

Step Three: Opt for a No-Touch Zone

Whether experimenting alone or with others, try taking touch off the table. Depending on how you want to cum to the moment (purely spiritual or a mixture of the psychic and the physical erotic), designate one or more no-touch zones. This might include the entire physical body, or focus on steering away from the most erogenous zones (genitals, nipples, lips, etc.) to find your energetic edge before exploring carnal desires. If you still want to incorporate some touch, consider a “red” and “green” system of communication. Indicate to your partner(s), as they slowly move or hover their hands around you, which areas you want stimulated and which you want to avoid for some or all of the time you’re playing. That way, you can control the experience as it unfolds, rather than giving a laundry list of no-go areas in advance. It may be a fun challenge to start with no touch to learn how creative you can be when you surrender your mind and fully inhabit your body.

Step Four: No Expectations

Remember, good things come to those who wait. Send loving energy to each part of the body as you (or your co-creators) scan and focus on different zones. Like a Ouija board, let the body’s innate sexual (erotic, kundalini) energy guide your movements and your intention, and don’t be fixated on the outcomes. You can incorporate self-love mantras, deep breathing, pelvic floor exercises, and any Tantra practices you’re exploring, or you can just drop into the moment without expectation. Contrary to pervasive myths, anyone can experience an energy orgasm, so be kind and patient with your whole self, leaving the mind to rest while your body absorbs the powerful healing energy being recycled to generate waves upon waves of pleasurable sensation.

2. Orgasmic Meditation

• What is orgasmic meditation?

According to the journal Frontiers in Psychology, orgasmic meditation is a “meditative state attained by both the male and female participants while the male stimulates the woman’s clitoris.” The goal of the practice, as defined by practitioners of OM, is to “use the focus on clitoral stimulation to facilitate a meditative state of connectedness and calm alertness between the two participants.” In other words, this unique spiritual practice combines sexual stimulation and meditative practices to encourage oneness and unity.

• How to do it:

Step One: Assume the Position

Lie down and take several deep, cleansing breaths. As with the energy orgasm practice, surrender and surroundings matter. Clear your mind, relax your body, and lie on your back in a safe, comfortable space that allows you to fully receive the waves of pleasure. With clean hands, apply lube to one finger. You can use that finger to “warm up” the area around the clitoris, but the focus should eventually be on the most sensitive part—the upper left quadrant. If you’re not accustomed to “lifting the hood” to reach the clitoris, or with self-touch in general, you may want to use a mirror to see what you’re doing.

Step Two: Set Your Timer

The recommended time for exploring clitoral stimulation in an orgasmic meditation is 15 minutes. In the more rigid OM practice, 13 minutes are allotted for stroking the clitoris itself, with the remaining two minutes allocated to “grounding pressure” applied to the vulva. It may seem odd at first to be so exacting with the time, but especially if you’re partnered up for the practice, it’s important to remember there is no reciprocal activity during these 15 minutes. The person being touched has the full focus on her (traditionally, the practice is only performed on people with a clitoris, but we’ve made some notes about how to adapt it if you have a penis below).

Step Three: Experiment with Touch

Again, referring back to the energy orgasm, you do want to let the energy guide your touch (if alone or the “receiver”) and if you’re the “giver”, you should tune in fully to the receiver’s feedback. The receiver’s job is precisely and only that: to receive and notice sensation. Experts of the OM practice note that many people with vulvas have either shied away from “lifting the [clitoral] hood” or not known how to touch it directly for enhanced stimulation. Zero in on the clitoris; she is the star of this show. Don’t be afraid to start slowly.

Step Four: Reach Your Climax

Don’t hold your breath for a climax that ends in a crash, or a rush that is often confused with an orgasm. Orgasms have a high intensity, but can range in duration and sensation. The OM practice has been confirmed to link sexuality and spirituality, with findings in the brain study emphasizing that there may exist “implications for therapeutic applications … helping with various neurological and psychological problems including emotional traumas, sexual dsyfunction and even depression.” If you don’t reach climax or orgasm, don’t be discouraged. It is possible to gain benefits from repeated practice and simply have fun trying a new pathway to pleasure!

For those who have penises, while OM has traditionally centered on a male “giver” or “stroker” providing a “masculine energy” to a female receiver, several recent OM practitioners have expanded the practice to include all bodies. In the case of people with penises, slow, deliberate strokes of the scrotum may be swapped for clitoral stimulation with variations on pressure, speed, and stroke incorporated to mirror the practice for similar results.

3. Orgasmic Birth

It goes without saying that this one won’t be for everyone … but since U.S. births rose for the first time in seven years in 2021, we’re guessing it’s safe to say that some of our readers may be expecting. Future birthers and pregnant folks, this one’s for you:

• What is orgasmic birth?

Also known as a birthgasm or “ecstatic birth”, orgasmic birth and related terms “encompass the range of sensation and emotional release within the birthing process when experienced as pleasurable by women”, according to the British Journal of Midwifery. As early as 1955, Niles Newton discussed similarities between sexual and birthing behaviors. Later, in 1966, 12 women were reported to have experienced “intense orgasmic sensation” during the second stage of their labors. In the journal Sexologies, midwives reported witnessing orgasms in less than one percent of births. Though rare, some modern midwives and doulas believe there are some ways to increase the likelihood of having an ecstatic birth. Below are a few of them.

• How to have one:

1. Use Pleasure to Manage Pain — It’s well known among doulas, midwives, and other birth workers that pleasure during childbirth is an excellent natural pain reliever. Smiling, laughing, and even smelling pleasant smells are simple tools to increase the likelihood of having a pleasurable birth experience. As with any of these spiritual orgasms, there’s no guarantee you’ll reach ecstasy, but viewing your labor through the lens of pleasure will radically change the harmful “birth is painful” narrative that is pervasive today.
2. Stimulate the Clit — Solo or with your partner, clitoral stimulation during early labor can help release oxytocin (the “happiness” chemical in your brain that helps you relax and release). This isn’t just good for you, it’s also good for your partner and birthing support team, as the more joy receptors you activate, the more easily you’ll progress in the journey to meeting your baby.

Choose Your Environment Wisely — Are you noticing a theme with these spiritual orgasms? Time, place, and space matter! If you are able to give birth in an environment of your choosing, consider what will make you most receptive to experiencing all types of intense waves. Many women report feeling “contractions” as waves of sensation, which can range from what some identify as pain to liberating, pleasurable, divine movements from the sacred womb space all through the physical, spiritual, energetic, and mental bodies.