Relationships in any form (romantic, family, friendships, co-workers) can get very messy and confusing.
Some of the most important tools we need for navigating tough relationships or tough times in a relationship are:
- Learning how to get in touch with how we feel and what we want and honoring that
- Learning how and when to set clear, firm boundaries
Setting boundaries is not always an easy step. It can be really hard and takes practice when we aren’t used to doing it, but it’s how we show the people in our lives how to treat us. It shows them what’s okay and what’s not okay.
Boundaries are a huge component of how we stay anchored in our power – which makes us less likely to be mistreated.
What does being anchored in our power even mean?
It means we know and live from a deep place of self-worth, of knowing we are important and we matter. It means we live with a knowing that we are the creators of our lives – we choose what we are willing to allow in our space.
When I look back at all the times I’ve been mistreated, 100% of the time I’ve given my power away.
We give our power away whenever we…
– don’t have clear boundaries
– choose not to speak up or stand up for ourselves
– say yes when we want to say no (people pleasing)
– trust someone else before ourselves
– put more importance on what other people will think, feel, or say than on how we feel or what we want
– violate our own values or integrity for someone else or to fit in
– compare ourselves to others
– judge ourselves
As a young adult, I was so used to giving my power away, I couldn’t see clearly the red flags or unhealthy behaviors in relationships and friendships.
Join us on November 14th, for All Your Power’s next workshop.
- How we give our power away
- How to identify manipulation and the different manipulation tactics
- Red flags and patterns in unhealthy and abusive relationships
- How developing a self-love practice anchors us into our worth and personal power
Can’t wait to see you there! =)